I'm coming up to TTC for a year and a half, and the comments are just ROLLING in.
I stopped talking about TTC at work because 1. It really is no one's business, and 2. I was tired of hearing "You're trying to hard, just relax" from people that have never ever been in my situation before in their lives.
The "trying too hard" is the most common comment I get and it makes me SOOOO mad. If someone wanted something really really bad, they would try really hard to get it right? A degree, a dog, a diet pepsi, a better golf swing, a better credit report, a new mattress, an early chemo appointment, a new car, etc etc. I could go on for hours. So what is so wrong with trying hard to have a baby? And I don't really see what the big difference is between trying and not. His you know what is in my you know where the same as if I was ovulating, trying or drunk. What's the big deal?!
My mother is trying really hard now not to say anything bad. Even after she told me play by play of a baby shower I skipped, she is trying. She said "you can't have a baby because I could never love anyone as much as I love you." Like I said, she's trying.
Yesterday at work a guy said his wrist hurt which just set the ball rolling for very inappropriate non-workplace jokes. Then I said "You should donate your sperm" and he said he wouldn't want his kids running around if he couldn't raise them. I told him he would make someone very very happy and he said "It's not my responsibility to help some misfit that can't get pregnant on their own" or something to that degree.
Yeah. Seriously. So I told him I was one of those misfits that he was talking about and that this was National Infertility Week and he needs to watch what he's saying cause that was NOT funny. I said some other things in my rant, but I don't remember. He promptly apologized and I think generally felt bad. I think if he was having an actual educated conversation he may have not said the same thing, but who knows.
By the way, I shook his Mountain Dew bottle up. A lot.
7 years ago