tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191378396444280696.post3504455101162745522..comments2023-10-09T08:55:02.849-04:00Comments on Isn't TTC Supposed To Be Fun?: FailureKatiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00492460456993123159noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191378396444280696.post-74894381528260486502008-09-03T23:43:00.000-04:002008-09-03T23:43:00.000-04:00You are not a failure and you did not fail anyone....You are not a failure and you did not fail anyone. As simple as it sounds, sometimes bad things happen for absolutely no reason. I had a miscarriage too and I am coming up on what would have been my due date; I have done a lot of grieving over my lost pregnancy, and I'm sure that I still have some to do, but both of us are strong women and I am sure that we will be great mothers. Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191378396444280696.post-59315328651773659202008-09-03T16:18:00.000-04:002008-09-03T16:18:00.000-04:00Hi Katie,I found your post after reading Sharon's ...Hi Katie,<BR/><BR/>I found your post after reading Sharon's and posting on hers... My heart breaks when I read your words - I can really feel the pain coming through the words (and maybe the song that was playing on your site also had something to do with it) and felt moved to tears. I have been there, I had a miscarriage last year - and kept blaming myself - that it was my fault. Interestingly I learnt the other day, that if there are no other issues, that in the first 3 months generally there is something wrong with the baby which is why nature takes its course and flushes it out, where as if it happens in the 4th month onward that it is then some thing to do with the mother. And of course realising that it is no-one's fault! We are all doing the best we can do in the moment! None of us are perfect, but we are whole and as perfect as nature/God intended us to be in that moment. What are you successful at? You sound like such a lovely gregarious soul! You are certainly touching many people through your heart breaking experience. Hardly a failure in my opinion. Having a baby is not the sum of who you are - don't forget it!<BR/><BR/>lovingly<BR/>Coach Louise Crooks<BR/><BR/>http://lifebalanceinfertilitycoach.wordpress.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191378396444280696.post-85234200898681352692008-09-03T05:23:00.000-04:002008-09-03T05:23:00.000-04:00i so can relate with this post and feeling like a ...i so can relate with this post and feeling like a failure... thanks for been so open an honest<BR/><BR/>hugs<BR/><BR/>xxxCharnèhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12988073781179586963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191378396444280696.post-80622956593154351842008-09-03T03:11:00.000-04:002008-09-03T03:11:00.000-04:00Katie, I can so relate, its how I felt after my fi...Katie, I can so relate, its how I felt after my first miscarriage. The way you're feeling is normal, its part of the grieving process and also part of coming to terms with the loss. Its just one of the milestones on route to recovery.<BR/>I'm a lot like you are, thats also one of the reasons I battled so with my infertility and miscarraiges, because I always get what I want, determination is my middle name! :-)<BR/>But hang in there, chances are, it won't happen again, there are only a few freaks in the world like me and hopefully you won't be one of them. Remember stastically you have less than a 20% of having another mc.<BR/>All I can say is just go with the emotions, its important for healing.<BR/>(((Hugs)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191378396444280696.post-17666792244838423532008-09-03T00:30:00.000-04:002008-09-03T00:30:00.000-04:00You are not a failure, if you were then I would be...You are not a failure, if you were then I would be the biggest there is. I totally understand your feelings because I feel the same way. I have never gotten what I wanted, but I did get my precious little boy... I really wanted a girl but I needed this little boy. there is no one to blame (even though I wish there was) and we will get through this. When I lost the second one I was devastated .... I was not sure how we got through it but we did and we are stronger because of it. I just posted on the BBC board about things happening for a reason. I am not sure why we have been through the worst pain and experience of our life but I feel like there has to be a reason. We just need to Trust that god knows what he is doing and follow it. Trust is one of the hardest things to gain back once you have lost it. I fell like I am just now gaining that trust back. Trust your self to carry a baby without failing and trust your self enough to know that now matter what you are a very talented and smart person who is good at what they do. Go take that test and kick butt..... celebrate your success with dh and get a bfp......Emily Bohlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04064689437412486279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191378396444280696.post-75287875084688604022008-09-02T14:59:00.000-04:002008-09-02T14:59:00.000-04:00At risk of sounding like your know-it-all aunt, le...At risk of sounding like your know-it-all aunt, let me say this: you're not a failure - you're a human being, an essential part of something much greater - this great big fabric of humanity and mother earth. I believe this "greater thing" makes things happen for a reason, and you are now a wiser, stronger person because of what you've gone through. Stay strong and hug yourself, and go get yourself a pedicure.Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03081973190512198022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2191378396444280696.post-29146339308956594502008-09-02T14:49:00.000-04:002008-09-02T14:49:00.000-04:00hey hun, I have totally been in the place you are,...hey hun, I have totally been in the place you are, for a little different reasons, but the same mind frame, becuase our infertility was due to my crap eggs, I felt responsible and terrible and guilty for having to put my husband and family through 2 years of fertility treatments to get PG. It took a while for me to forgive myself and realize that this crap is no ones fault, it just happens and it sucks, but there is no one to blame. You will get there too, I know it, it may not be right now, but soon. thinking of you!aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15026378388609134143noreply@blogger.com